Happy New Year everybody! How was your holiday celebration? I definitely did not do anything the whole winter break, but that’s okay. I’ve gained a new perspective on where my life is going — and for me that’s better than any party I could have gone to or sale I could have taken advantage of.

Here are some of my 2010 resolutions.

• Apply & get accepted to FITNYC
• Finish my portfolio
• Drop 20 pounds (I’ve lost 8 so far!)
• Start writing down my thoughts more often
• Maintain at least a 3.5 GPA

What are some of you all’s resolutions?

So, it’s Christmas Eve 2009 and I’m FINISHED wrapping presents. The only thing I have left to do is throw back a couple glasses of wine, watch a few Christmas movies, eat cookies & pie and wait for “Santa” to come…*side eye*. Cliche, I know, but Christmas is one of my favorite Holiday of the year.

I wish you all a Merry Christmas!

The title pretty much explains itself so I’m not really going to “intro” this post.

Moving right along…

1. Youtube flunkies. Why must the black population continue to set us back hundreds of years by posting the most ignorant, shit I can’t even find the words to describe how vexed I am by these coons. I believe that the following videos will explain what I simply cannot. Enter scene…Examples 1, 2, and 3.

Annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnd scene.

2. Stealing other men/women’s girlfriends/boyfriends (homewrecking for dummies). I blame this on Chris Brown and Bow Wow, the two pubescent puppies of the African-American entertainment world. Oh, and Trey Songz. Um…I also blame it on Tila “I’m allergic to alcohol” Tequila and her tampon…umm I also blame it on Gabrielle Union, Alicia Keys, Fantasia Barrino, Matthew Knowles’ baby mama, Rocsi and any other man/woman that has bragged or deemed it “okay” to take another’s spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend. Since when is it okay to break up a happy home for your benefit? Don’t be surprised when someone either A.) Beats that ass or B.) Steals YOUR guy/girl. I’m just saying…

3.  Geeks to Gangsters. Yeah, I said it. So, you had a 4.0 in high school, you were on the Principal’s Honor Roll and you got accepted to beaucoup colleges, but now you’re a “gunner” or a “thug”? And what makes you “tough”? Oh, so because you got picked on in high school (for your nerdiness) and grew some thick skin, you’re a street ninja? Go read a book. You’re probably the only one in your “clique” that knows how.

4. Domestic violence. I’m going to try to be 100% serious on this subject and not go the sarcastic route because I’ve experienced domestic violence in the past. Let’s see…Chris Brown & Rihanna, Tiger Woods and Elin Woods and now NFL football player Chris Henry (R.I.P.) and….his fiancee (side eye), Ryan Alexander Jenkins and Jasmine Fiore(R.I.P.) (if you don’t know about that story, click here, it’s such a shame.), Tila Tequila and Shawne Merriman (wait, that never happened! womp wommmpppp) Steve McNair (R.I.P.) and Sahel Kazemi. When will these celebrities learn that violence is never the answer? Especially being on national television, and knowing that any major dispute will be broadcasted in front of millions and billions of viewers and could potentially kill your career (C.Breezy had to learn the hard way). I can understand how an argument can escalate quickly from a 2 to a 10, but that’s the point where both in the argument should cool-off for an hour, think what the argument was about, then come back together and talk it out. No matter what the issue, if you take time to think about it – the anger will subside. Maybe not all the way, but somewhat. There’s no reason that we should keep seeing celebrities be in the spotlight for domestic violence versus what their actual JOB is.  And we sure don’t want to see another celebrity death.

5. Dirty Money, Gucci Mane, Wacka Flocka (whatever) The Fro Hawk, Plaid Dresses, Nicki Minaj/Trina’s Lacefronts, MySpace 2.0, Lil’ Mama, Taylor Swift winning artist of the year over MICHAEL JACKSON (because that’s just…wrong), Natalie Nunn’s chin (hell, Natalie Nunn PERIOD), Sammy Sosa and his clam-chowder skin/perm, Lil Kim, Chris Brown’s catsuit & “Single Ladies” glove (album cover) (and….his album not getting stocked…womppp), Katt Williams, Frankie & Neffe (and her 390239023 daughter, Elite), Tiger Woods, Shaq & his mistresses, Rihanna’s album sales, Keri Hilson, Lil’ Wayne’s jail sentence, Soulja Boy’s haircut, Que (Day 26) and his two-year-old temper tantrums, Beyonce’s tights (rolls eyes), Pleasure the Molester & Pretty Ricky and last but not least Kim Zolciak and her married fiance and her “Tardy for the Vocal Coach” single.

What do you guys think of my Top 5 fails? Comment and let me know! And add your own! xoxo

Jacked from Lovebscott.com < I absolutely love him/her! LOL *Side Eye*

The word “haters” really is overused. You hear the word everywhere. You’d have to live under a rock to have never used the word before; but I think that some people don’t quite understand what exactly a hater is and what you have to do to qualify to have haters.

Haters don’t just hate on anybody. No no, they hate on people who have something that they can’t have. Whether it’s a job position, admission to a school (pardon me, I’m in college), money, a car, a house, an apartment, “good hair”, a nice body, good teeth, hell even good eyebrows will get you at least a half a hater. They hate on people who are doing something and going somewhere in life. A hater is actually a  person who deep down is in love with you so much that they’ve become so obsessive over what you look like, what you drive, where you live, who you’re with that they keep up with your life. A hater is a top 10 fan that has too much pride to tell you that they adore you.

But I am just so damn tired of every Sam, Jack and Judy throwing around the word “hater” just because somebody doesn’t like them. Newsflash: if you don’t have anything to “hate on” you can’t have “haters.” Why would anybody hate on a person that doesn’t have anything worth wanting? They don’t. So, I did some investigation into people who….”aren’t shit” (pardon my Francais) and why they believed that if somebody didn’t like them they were their “haters.” Blech.

Exhibit A: “Sally” – Sally is your typical Maury show “I have an out of control teenager” contestant. A high school flopout for no particularly good reason, she came from a middle-class family in the suburbs, but seems strangely attached to the idea that she’s “hood.” She doesn’t have too many female friends, and when she does she loses them by A. Sleeping with their boyfriends or B. Faking domestic violence situations in which their friend sticks up for her and they end up looking stupid. Besides the fact that she doesn’t have a stool to stand on, Sally flaunts her “hater count” like it’s going out of style.  She plays the victim in life and acts like she doesn’t have control over what happens to her, when in reality, what she gets out of life is the end result of the less than smart decisions that she makes.

The reason Sally has virtually no haters is quite clear. She could have had the world but instead she forms toxic relationships with men that she has no business dating, double crosses any friends that she could have had and doesn’t take advantage of the opportunities she had.  She doesn’t live in the hood, she doesn’t have a terrible financial situation, she has parents that love her, she’s surrounded by people who could help her, yet she puts her in situations that just drive her deeper and deeper in a hole that’s going to be hard to get out of. Instead of her having haters, she has people who don’t like what she does. There is a profound difference between the two. People don’t hate what she has or hate on her potential, they disagree with the decisions that she makes in her life.

The difference between haters and people who don’t like what you do is that the latter isn’t obsessed with you. They’re not your fan and they don’t adore you. They just wish that you would get your act together. They wish you would get off the couch and get a job. They’re hoping that you put down the x-box controller and pick up a book. They’re praying that you would use the money that you strip for to pay your tuition.

So, do you really have haters? Or do you have more work to do?